{"id":36336,"date":"2026-03-11T09:25:53","date_gmt":"2026-03-11T09:25:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/be-accepted.com\/sa-i-spun-copilului-meu\/"},"modified":"2026-04-10T10:36:42","modified_gmt":"2026-04-10T10:36:42","slug":"sa-i-spun-copilului-meu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/be-accepted.com\/ro\/sa-i-spun-copilului-meu\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00cei spun copilului meu?"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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AM CANCER.<\/span><\/p>

Nu, nu micii crabi pe care \u00eei adun\u0103m mereu pe plaj\u0103, \u00een Italia, cancerul meu este o boal\u0103.<\/span><\/p>

Nu-l po\u021bi vedea acum, e \u00een mine, ascuns \u00een celulele minuscule din care e alc\u0103tuit corpul meu. Doctorul meu l-a g\u0103sit oricum, slav\u0103 Domnului.<\/span><\/p>

Nu e minunat c\u0103 am aceast\u0103 boal\u0103, dar acum c\u0103 \u0219tim c\u0103 exist\u0103, pot face multe s\u0103 o fac s\u0103 dispar\u0103.<\/span><\/p>

FRAGMENTE DIN \u201eMAMA MEA ESTE PIRAT \u2013 CANCERUL \u00ceN FAMILIE\u201d:<\/span><\/p>

\u201eMama mea este un pirat curajos. Cu echipajul ei \u0219i experimentatul c\u0103pitan pirat, ea porne\u0219te \u00eentr-o c\u0103l\u0103torie \u00een fiecare joi. \u00cen c\u0103utarea Insulei Comorii. Marea este uneori furtunoas\u0103, iar mon\u0219trii marini sunt periculo\u0219i. De aceea, Mama are cicatrici, ca orice pirat adev\u0103rat.<\/span><\/p>

La fel ca pira\u021bii, \u0219i-a ras p\u0103rul \u0219i acum poart\u0103 pe cap e\u0219arfe colorate, de pira\u021bi. Dar toate aceste aventuri sunt foarte epuizante. De aceea, Mama este foarte obosit\u0103 \u0219i doarme mult. Dar c\u0103utarea merit\u0103! Pentru c\u0103 \u00een cele din urm\u0103 mon\u0219trii marini sunt \u00eenvin\u0219i, iar Insula Comorii este descoperit\u0103.\u201d<\/span><\/p>

Care este cel mai dificil lucru \u00een a scrie un articol despre un subiect at\u00e2t de important? Pentru mine, cred \u00eenceputul este cel mai dificil. Cu ce cuvinte ar trebui s\u0103 \u00eenceap\u0103 \u0219i \u00een ce direc\u021bie ar trebui s\u0103 se \u00eendrepte. De \u00eendat\u0103 ce \u00eenceputul este gata, multe lucruri vin de la sine.<\/span><\/p>

Similar\u0103 cu scrisul unui articol, de\u0219i cu consecin\u021be mult mai ample, este \u00eentrebarea: \u201eAr trebui s\u0103 \u00eei spun copilului meu \u0219i dac\u0103 da, cum s\u0103 \u00eencep?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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Din perspectiva pedagogiei adaptate experien\u021belor traumatice, r\u0103spunsul este:<\/span><\/p>

\u201e\u00ceN PRINCIPIU, DA\u201d<\/span><\/p>

\u00centruc\u00e2t subiectul cancerului este at\u00e2t de vast, nu vom putea discuta totul \u00een detaliu aici, dar v\u0103 vom oferi o prezentare general\u0103 din perspectiva pedagogiei adaptate experien\u021belor traumatice, cu literatura de specialitate aferent\u0103, pentru a o aprofunda. De asemenea, explic\u0103m de ce este at\u00e2t de important s\u0103 includem copiii \u00een acest proces \u0219i de ce includerea lor poate contribui la o oarecare reducere a suferin\u021bei.<\/span><\/p>

Dar mai \u00eent\u00e2i, transmiterea informa\u021biei c\u0103 mama are cancer poate duce la o povar\u0103 suplimentar\u0103 pe moment pentru copii. Totu\u0219i, acest lucru favorizeaz\u0103 o rela\u021bie sustenabil\u0103, de lung\u0103 durat\u0103 \u0219i bazat\u0103 pe \u00eencredere. \u00cen plus, copiii \u0219tiu mai devreme sau mai t\u00e2rziu, chiar \u0219i f\u0103r\u0103 informa\u021bii directe, c\u0103 ceva important este \u00een neregul\u0103 \u00een familie. Mama\/tata sunt adesea pleca\u021bi, sunt la spital, vorbesc mult mai des la telefon \u0219i poate chiar cu u\u0219ile \u00eenchise. Mama\/tata pl\u00e2nge \u0219i nu vrea s\u0103 spun\u0103 de ce sau explica\u021biile sun\u0103 ciudat. Incertitudinea perceput\u0103 pe care o dezvolt\u0103 copilul are un efect mai grav asupra emo\u021biilor \u0219i stabilit\u0103\u021bii sale psihologice dec\u00e2t informa\u021biile despre ceea ce se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 transmise \u00eentr-un mod adecvat pentru copii.<\/span><\/p>

Claritatea \u00eenvinge frica. \u00cen pedagogia orientat\u0103 c\u0103tre \u00een\u021belegerea traumelor, aceasta este denumit\u0103 atitudinea de baz\u0103 a \u201etransparen\u021bei\u201d. Pu\u021bine lucruri sunt la fel de \u00eenfrico\u0219\u0103toare ca a nu \u0219ti ce se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 \u00een familie. Copiilor le place s\u0103 \u00ee\u0219i dezvolte propriile idei despre lume pentru a-\u0219i rec\u00e2\u0219tiga siguran\u021ba \u00eentr-o situa\u021bie incert\u0103. Aceasta este adesea \u00eenso\u021bit\u0103 de \u201e\u00eendoial\u0103 de sine\u201d, \u201esentimente de vinov\u0103\u021bie\u201d \u0219i \u201edisperare\/neputin\u021b\u0103\u201d.<\/span><\/p>

\/ Copiii vor aceste informa\u021bii de la dumneavoastr\u0103 pentru c\u0103, \u00een calitate de p\u0103rinte, sunte\u021bi pur \u0219i simplu cel mai important \u00eengrijitor al lor.\/<\/span><\/p>

MAMA ARE CANCER, ESTE O BOAL\u0102<\/span><\/p>

De asemenea, cred c\u0103 are sens s\u0103 folosi\u021bi cuv\u00e2ntul \u201ecancer\u201d \u0219i s\u0103 explica\u021bi \u00eentr-un mod adecvat pentru copii, potrivit v\u00e2rstei, ce este cancerul. Aceast\u0103 explica\u021bie trebuie s\u0103 fie c\u00e2t mai simpl\u0103 \u0219i clar\u0103 cu putin\u021b\u0103. \u00cen acest caz pute\u021bi spune ceva de genul urm\u0103tor pentru toate categoriile de v\u00e2rst\u0103: \u201eMami are cancer, adic\u0103 o boal\u0103. Ea va sta mult \u00een spital \u00een viitorul apropiat. O vom vizita destul de des, a\u0219a c\u0103, dac\u0103 vrei, po\u021bi veni \u0219i tu, c\u00e2t de des posibil.\u201d \u00cen cazul copiilor mai mari, \u00eencep\u00e2nd cu v\u00e2rsta de aproximativ 10 ani, pute\u021bi inclusiv \u00eentreba dac\u0103 \u0219tiu ce este cancerul. De asemenea, este important s\u0103-i explica\u021bi copilului c\u0103, \u00een multe cazuri, cancerul poate fi vindecat.<\/span><\/p>

TOATE INFORMA\u021aIILE TRANSMISE \u201eBUCAT\u0102 CU BUCAT\u0102\u201d<\/span><\/p>

Din p\u0103cate, nu exist\u0103 o regul\u0103 general\u0103 care s\u0103 spun\u0103 c\u00e2nd este momentul potrivit. Vorbind din experien\u021b\u0103, este bine s\u0103 alege\u021bi o dat\u0103 c\u00e2t mai devreme. C\u00e2nd \u0219ocul ini\u021bial al diagnosticului a trecut \u0219i trebuie planifica\u021bi pa\u0219ii urm\u0103tori. Cu c\u00e2t exist\u0103 claritate mai devreme, cu at\u00e2t este mai u\u0219or pentru copii s\u0103 gestioneze situa\u021bia.<\/span><\/p>

\u00cen perioada premerg\u0103toare discu\u021biei, este important ca dumneavoastr\u0103 \u0219i partenerul dumneavoastr\u0103 s\u0103 c\u0103de\u021bi de acord \u00een leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu ce \u0219i cum ve\u021bi spune. Ar fi, de asemenea, bine s\u0103 ave\u021bi preg\u0103tit\u0103 o explica\u021bie potrivit\u0103 v\u00e2rstei. Copilul ar trebui s\u0103 aib\u0103, de asemenea, posibilitatea de a pune \u00eentreb\u0103ri, dar \u0219i permisiunea de a pune cap\u0103t conversa\u021biei. Acesta este un semn c\u0103 acel copil se simte supra\u00eenc\u0103rcat \u0219i \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103-\u0219i protejeze limitele. Continua\u021bi s\u0103 semnala\u021bi disponibilitatea de a discuta f\u0103r\u0103 a v\u0103 impune. Purta\u021bi conversa\u021bia \u00eentr-o atmosfer\u0103 familiar\u0103, \u00eentr-un moment lini\u0219tit. Din punct de vedere neurobiologic, ar fi de asemenea o idee bun\u0103 s\u0103 face\u021bi acest lucru \u00een timpul unei plimb\u0103ri. C\u00e2nd alege\u021bi cuvintele, acorda\u021bi aten\u021bie v\u00e2rstei copilului. Ca \u00eentotdeauna, claritatea aduce \u00een\u021belegere.<\/span><\/p>

Ab\u021bine\u021bi-v\u0103 de la utilizarea unor cuvinte care le sunt str\u0103ine \u0219i \u00eencerca\u021bi s\u0103 transmite\u021bi informa\u021biile pe r\u00e2nd; nu ezita\u021bi s\u0103 \u00eentrerupe\u021bi conversa\u021bia dac\u0103 ave\u021bi senza\u021bia c\u0103 copilul este cople\u0219it. Aceast\u0103 \u00eentrerupere poate fi de c\u00e2teva minute sau ore sau pute\u021bi continua conversa\u021bia a doua zi. Desigur, la fel de normal este s\u0103 \u00eentrerupe\u021bi dumneavoastr\u0103 conversa\u021bia dac\u0103 nu mai pute\u021bi suporta \u0219i sunte\u021bi cople\u0219it\u0103 de sentimente. Doar comunica\u021bi acest lucru \u0219i nu v\u0103 ascunde\u021bi sentimentele. \u201eAceast\u0103 conversa\u021bie m\u0103 \u00eentristeaz\u0103 foarte mult acum, a\u0219 vrea s\u0103 vorbim mai t\u00e2rziu, c\u00e2nd po\u021bi.\u201d Dac\u0103 ave\u021bi mai mul\u021bi copii de v\u00e2rste diferite, v\u0103 recomand s\u0103 purta\u021bi conversa\u021bia ini\u021bial\u0103 cu ei pe r\u00e2nd. Este important s\u0103 v\u0103 asigura\u021bi c\u0103 to\u021bi copiii primesc acelea\u0219i informa\u021bii. \u00cencerca\u021bi s\u0103 evita\u021bi secretele \u00eentre membrii familiei.<\/span><\/p>

EXPLICA\u021aIE SCURT\u0102, DAR UTIL\u0102<\/span><\/p>

Nu este necesar s\u0103 discuta\u021bi totul p\u00e2n\u0103 la cel mai mic detaliu. Copiii se mul\u021bumesc de obicei cu o explica\u021bie scurt\u0103, dar concludent\u0103. Explica\u021bi, de asemenea, posibilele reac\u021bii adverse, at\u00e2t cele vizibile (pierderea p\u0103rului, pierderea \u00een greutate etc.), c\u00e2t \u0219i \u0219i cele invizibile (iritabilitatea, oboseala etc.).<\/span><\/p>

DURATA TRATAMENTULUI<\/span><\/p>

O alt\u0103 problem\u0103 important\u0103 este durata tratamentului. Trebuie s\u0103 re\u021bine\u021bi c\u0103 timpul este perceput diferit de copii. \u00cencerca\u021bi s\u0103-i oferi\u021bi copilului o perspectiv\u0103 concret\u0103. De exemplu, pute\u021bi vorbi \u00een termeni de anotimpuri sau s\u0103rb\u0103tori. \u201eNe a\u0219tept\u0103m ca tratamentul s\u0103 dureze p\u00e2n\u0103 la Pa\u0219te\/Cr\u0103ciun\/p\u00e2n\u0103 c\u00e2nd \u00eencepe \u0219coala.\u201d<\/span><\/p>

Copiilor le va fi astfel mai u\u0219or s\u0103 \u00een\u021beleag\u0103 perioada de timp.<\/span><\/p>

ESTE BINE S\u0102 SPUNE\u021aI SENTIMENTELOR PE NUME<\/span><\/p>

Accepta\u021bi toate sentimentele copilului dumneavoastr\u0103. Astfel ve\u021bi putea s\u0103 aborda\u021bi \u0219i s\u0103 trata\u021bi cu seriozitate sentimente precum frica, triste\u021bea \u0219i furia. Evita\u021bi expresiile aparent \u00eencurajatoare precum \u201eNu pl\u00e2nge\u201d, \u201eNu fi trist\/trist\u0103\u201d \u0219i altele. Este bine s\u0103 spune\u021bi sentimentelor copilului pe nume, de exemplu \u201e\u0218tiu c\u0103 e\u0219ti speriat\/speriat\u0103 \u0219i trist\/trist\u0103, \u0219i eu sunt. Dar \u00ee\u021bi voi spune \u00eentotdeauna totul, dac\u0103 vrei.\u201d<\/span><\/p>

De asemenea, oferi\u021bi-i copilului libertatea de a decide dac\u0103 vrea s\u0103 i se explice ceva sau nu.<\/span><\/p>

SENTIMENTUL DE APARTENEN\u021a\u0102<\/span><\/p>

Ceea ce au cel mai mult nevoie copiii \u00een astfel de situa\u021bii este sentimentul de apartenen\u021b\u0103.<\/span><\/p>

Acesta le ofer\u0103 siguran\u021b\u0103 \u0219i protec\u021bie.<\/span><\/p>

Pe l\u00e2ng\u0103 conversa\u021bii, a fi \u00eempreun\u0103 este, prin urmare, extrem de important. Atunci c\u00e2nd copilul deja se bucur\u0103 de apropierea p\u0103rin\u021bilor sub forma \u00eembr\u0103\u021bi\u0219\u0103rilor, acest lucru este valabil mai ales \u00een aceast\u0103 perioad\u0103. Este de o importan\u021b\u0103 existen\u021bial\u0103 pentru copii s\u0103 \u0219tie c\u0103 sunt iubi\u021bi de mama \u0219i de tat\u0103l lor.<\/span><\/p>

Bine\u00een\u021beles, copilul dumneavoastr\u0103 poate reac\u021biona la astfel de informa\u021bii \u00een moduri foarte diferite. Reac\u021biile normale includ a pretinde c\u0103 nu este nimic \u00een neregul\u0103. Copiii au capacitatea de a trece de la un sentiment la altul foarte repede. Sunt capabili s\u0103 exclud\u0103 temporar din minte situa\u021bia stresant\u0103. Continu\u0103 s\u0103 se \u00eent\u00e2lneasc\u0103 cu prietenii la joac\u0103 sau s\u0103 mearg\u0103 \u00een cluburi. Poate c\u0103 au nevoie de o structur\u0103 clar\u0103 \u00een via\u021ba lor de zi cu zi chiar acum, care s\u0103 le ofere sprijinul at\u00e2t de urgent necesar.<\/span><\/p>

Ar putea exista \u0219i o reac\u021bie \u00eent\u00e2rziat\u0103. Aceasta poate avea loc la c\u00e2teva ore, zile sau uneori chiar s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2ni dup\u0103 ce informa\u021biile sunt procesate. \u00cen aceast\u0103 privin\u021b\u0103, noi, oamenii, fie copii, fie adul\u021bi, suntem foarte diferi\u021bi. Pot ap\u0103rea sentimente precum furie \u0219i m\u00e2nie. Acestea nu sunt neap\u0103rat \u00eendreptate c\u0103tre dumneavoastr\u0103 ca p\u0103rin\u021bi, ci pot fi foarte generale (\u00eendreptate c\u0103tre medici, c\u0103tre Dumnezeu \u0219i lume etc.) sau foarte specifice (\u00eendreptate c\u0103tre boal\u0103). Aceasta poate fi o incertitudine ascuns\u0103, deoarece copilul \u00eenc\u0103 are \u00eentreb\u0103ri la care nu s-a r\u0103spuns. \u00centreba\u021bi copilul de ce are nevoie pentru a putea face fa\u021b\u0103 mai bine situa\u021biei \u0219i sentimentelor sale.<\/span><\/p>

E\u0218TI BINE?<\/span><\/p>

Unii copii reac\u021bioneaz\u0103, de asemenea, \u00een t\u0103cere. Acest lucru se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 adesea din \u201eimpulsul\u201d de a nu fi o povar\u0103 suplimentar\u0103. Dac\u0103 ave\u021bi senza\u021bia c\u0103 copilul dumneavoastr\u0103 nu pare a avea nicio problem\u0103 \u0219i nu s-a manifestat nicio schimbare, discuta\u021bi despre acest lucru \u0219i spune\u021bi-i c\u0103 este \u00een regul\u0103 s\u0103 arate ceea ce simte. \u00cencerca\u021bi s\u0103 face\u021bi acest lucru c\u00e2t mai discret posibil. Expresii precum \u201e\u0218tii c\u0103 po\u021bi s\u0103 m\u0103 \u00eentrebi orice.\u201d Dar \u0219i s\u0103 \u00eentreba\u021bi \u201eE\u0219ti bine?\u201d din c\u00e2nd \u00een c\u00e2nd este suficient.<\/span><\/p>

Unii copii dezvolt\u0103 o dependen\u021b\u0103 de ata\u0219ament \u0219i insist\u0103 s\u0103 primeasc\u0103 mult\u0103 aten\u021bie \u0219i grij\u0103. Unii cad inclusiv \u00eentr-o a\u0219a-numit\u0103 regresie de v\u00e2rst\u0103 \u0219i prezint\u0103 comportamente specifice copil\u0103riei timpurii (suptul degetului, pl\u00e2nsul c\u00e2nd sunt l\u0103sa\u021bi singuri, udarea pantalonilor, defecarea). Dac\u0103 v\u0103 confrunta\u021bi cu regresii comportamentale \u00een familia dumneavoastr\u0103, nu ezita\u021bi s\u0103 cere\u021bi ajutor din exterior (de<\/span>\u2009<\/span>ex. centre de consiliere \u00een cazul problemelor oncologice, servicii psihosociale, psihoterapeu\u021bi, consilieri specializa\u021bi \u00een \u00een\u021belegerea traumelor etc.). Asigura\u021bi-v\u0103 c\u0103 persoana cu care lucra\u021bi este empatic\u0103 la nivel personal, dar are \u0219i calific\u0103rile profesionale necesare.<\/span><\/p>

MULTE \u00ceNTREB\u0102RI PE ACEAST\u0102 TEM\u0102<\/span><\/p>

Copiilor le trec prin minte foarte multe \u00eentreb\u0103ri pe aceast\u0103 tem\u0103. Foarte des, copiii se simt \u201evinova\u021bi\u201d pentru c\u0103 nu au fost cumin\u021bi, au f\u0103cut ceva interzis sau pentru c\u0103 s-au enervat. Trebuie neap\u0103rat s\u0103 \u00eei spune\u021bi copilului dumneavoastr\u0103 c\u0103 nu are nicio vin\u0103 pentru cancerul dumneavoastr\u0103. Unii copii se \u00eentreab\u0103, de asemenea, dac\u0103 nu cumva cancerul este contagios \u0219i dac\u0103 nu ar trebui s\u0103 evite contactul fizic. Explica\u021bi-i copilului c\u0103 acest lucru nu este valabil \u00een cazul cancerului. Destul de des, dup\u0103 o anumit\u0103 v\u00e2rst\u0103 (de la aproximativ 6 ani, ideea de sf\u00e2r\u0219it \u00eencepe s\u0103 fie rudimentar \u00een\u021beleas\u0103), copiii pun \u00eentrebarea \u201eO s\u0103 mori?\u201d. Ar putea fi util \u00een acel moment s\u0103 pute\u021bi men\u021biona persoane din cercul dumneavoastr\u0103 de cuno\u0219tin\u021be care au \u00eenvins cancerul sau ar putea fi util\u0103, de asemenea, urm\u0103toarea explica\u021bie:<\/span><\/p>

\u201eSunt \u0219anse foarte mari s\u0103 reac\u021bionez bine la tratament. \u00cens\u0103 nu vom \u0219ti cu siguran\u021b\u0103 dec\u00e2t la ceva timp dup\u0103 ce termin tratamentul. Dar uite, putem vorbi din nou despre ce se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 c\u00e2nd voi afla \u0219i eu mai multe. Dac\u0103 vrei, \u00ee\u021bi voi spune eu sau po\u021bi pur \u0219i simplu s\u0103 m\u0103 \u00eentrebi.\u201d Pute\u021bi r\u0103spunde la \u00eentrebare a\u0219a sau \u00eentr-un mod similar. \u00cen acest fel, \u00eei oferi\u021bi copilului dumneavoastr\u0103 libertatea de a decide s\u0103 \u00eentrebe sau nu. Copiii au o capacitate incredibil\u0103 de a face fa\u021b\u0103 ve\u0219tilor triste. Din perspectiva pedagogiei adaptate experien\u021belor traumatice, abordarea orientat\u0103 c\u0103tre leg\u0103turile afective este valoroas\u0103. Sus\u021binerea afectuoas\u0103 din partea p\u0103rin\u021bilor contribuie foarte mult la rezilien\u021ba copiilor (rezisten\u021ba psihologic\u0103).<\/span><\/p>

GESTIONAREA SITUA\u021aIEI \u00ceNTR-UN MOD CON\u0218TIENT<\/span><\/p>

Din punctul meu de vedere, este de asemenea util s\u0103 v\u0103 informa\u021bi re\u021beaua de sprijin despre boal\u0103. Re\u021beaua de sprijin poate \u00eensemna persoanele care vor rela\u021biona mult cu copilul dumneavoastr\u0103 \u00een viitorul apropiat. Rude, gr\u0103dini\u021be, \u0219coli etc. Ar fi o idee bun\u0103 s\u0103 le sugera\u021bi acestor persoane s\u0103 \u00eei trateze pe copii cu afec\u021biune, dar \u0219i s\u0103 le spune\u021bi clar c\u0103 ar trebui s\u0103 se ab\u021bin\u0103 de la a-i comp\u0103timi constant. Aceste lucruri \u021bin de gestionarea con\u0219tient\u0103 a situa\u021biei.<\/span><\/p>

N<\/span>ICIUN R\u0102SPUNS LA \u00ceNTREB\u0102RI<\/span><\/p>

Fire\u0219te, se poate \u00eent\u00e2mpla \u0219i s\u0103 nu ave\u021bi un r\u0103spuns la \u00eentreb\u0103rile copilului dumneavoastr\u0103. \u0218i admiterea acestui lucru poate fi \u00een sine r\u0103spunsul corect de dat. Evita\u021bi s\u0103 face\u021bi promisiuni pe care nu le pute\u021bi respecta. Copiii pot face fa\u021b\u0103 mai u\u0219or incertitudinii dec\u00e2t promisiunilor \u00eenc\u0103lcate. De asemenea, \u00eencerca\u021bi s\u0103 nu oferi\u021bi informa\u021bii pe care nu le ave\u021bi: de exemplu, dac\u0103 nu \u0219ti\u021bi c\u00e2t va dura o programare la spital, pute\u021bi spune ceva precum: \u201eNu \u0219tiu exact cum va fi m\u00e2ine la spital \u0219i deja \u00eemi este pu\u021bin team\u0103. Dar c\u00e2nd ajung acas\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi voi spune exact cum a fost \u0219i po\u021bi s\u0103 m\u0103 \u00eentrebi orice.\u201d Copiii pot gestiona foarte bine informa\u021biile veridice \u0219i prefer\u0103 s\u0103 fie trata\u021bi cu \u00eencredere \u0219i de la egal la egal. Egalitatea este, de asemenea, unul dintre principiile de baz\u0103 ale pedagogiei adaptate copiilor cu experien\u021be traumatice \u0219i contribuie \u00een mare m\u0103sur\u0103 la consolidarea unui comportament echilibrat \u00een contextul leg\u0103turilor afective.<\/span><\/p>

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\u00cen esen\u021b\u0103<\/span><\/p>

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\u00cen esen\u021b\u0103, este imposibil de negat faptul c\u0103 o comunicare de la egal la egal, \u00eentr-un limbaj adecvat v\u00e2rstei, poate contribui enorm la consolidarea rela\u021biei dintre p\u0103rin\u021bi \u0219i copiii lor \u0219i, \u00een plus, la consolidarea \u00eencrederii reciproce atunci c\u00e2nd naviga\u021bi \u00eempreun\u0103 prin ape agitate pe corabia de pira\u021bi \u201eCuraj\u201d. Copiii vor s\u0103 fie v\u0103zu\u021bi ca \u201emembri ai echipajului\u201d cu drepturi depline, nu ca str\u0103ini.<\/span><\/p>

Le doresc tuturor celor afecta\u021bi mult curaj \u0219i \u00eencredere, precum \u0219i capacitatea de a aduce senin\u0103tate \u0219i umor \u00een via\u021ba lor \u00een care cancerul este acum prezent.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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Lecturi recomandate:<\/span><\/p>

Surugue, Karine (2020): Mama mea pirat\u0103 curajoas\u0103 \u2013 Cancerul \u00een familie<\/span><\/p>

Spiecker, Anne (2017): Curaj \u00een p\u0103l\u0103rie: Mama mea are cancer<\/span><\/p>

Herlofsen, Sarah Roxana (2019): Dar cancerul? Carte delicat\u0103 pentru copii pe tema cancerului \u0219i pierderii <\/span><\/p>

Thompson, Elke (2021): Putem \u00eenc\u0103 s\u0103 ne \u00eembr\u0103\u021bi\u0219\u0103m? Un manual pentru copii despre cancerul de s\u00e2n <\/span><\/p>

B\u00fcntge, Anna (2017): Schimb\u0103 ursule\u021bii guma\u021bi cu medicina dragonilor: O poveste despre cancer \u0219i chimioterapie cu stil explicativ pentru oameni mici \u0219i mari<\/span><\/p>

Br\u00fctting, Sabine (2018): Tat\u0103l lui Leo are cancer (Kids in Balance)<\/span><\/p>

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